What does it mean to be enough? To have enough? To help enough? To do enough?
I'm surrounded by amazing women who are doing so much. Loving so much. Juggling so many balls and keeping them all in the air. Women who remember the small details as well as the big important things. Who hold a million and one things in their heads and hearts and who for the most part hold it together. I'd imagine that these women would be amazed at their own brilliance. At their capacity and capability. They would look in the mirror and marvel at just how fantastic they are. Yet this is not generally what I see or what I hear.
I hear a version of 'not enough' more often than not. They're not doing enough. They're not there enough, for their work, their children, their families and what they are is tired, busy, overwhelmed.
So I got to thinking, what if all of these beautiful hearted women knew that deep down they were already enough. That they were already all that they needed to be. That they didn't need to do another course. Learn anything more. Fix anything else. They could make a choice to focus on what brings them joy. They could allow their lives and their work to reflect what they most love.
What stops us makes this choice is often untrue and limiting assumptions. Assumptions are things that we take as true and real without scrutiny and generally without logic or information. Assumptions like: I don't have a choice; I need to get it all done (perfectly); it's unsafe to be vulnerable; asking for help is weak; needing others makes me a burden; if I stop it will all unravel.
Untrue assumptions sap our energy and our joy. They take away choice and make us feel stuck. So today, I want to celebrate all of the amazing women I know and I'd like to ask, what would change for you if you knew that you were already enough? If you knew that what the world needs is the wisdom and grace you already have. That it's okay to stop. To think and to prioritise your own needs.
I'd love you to write these wonderful words from Maya Angelou out and stick them up somewhere you can see a few times a day so the message slowly filters into your bones and being: " I'm a woman, Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me".